Couples Dynamics

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Cross Road Dilemma

I don’t know about the average person on the street, but I get to cross roads in my life every two years. Now it would be OK if your cerebellum had a built in GPS navigator (to indicate the obstacles and shortest route to success), scanner/printer (so it could print you a report on the pros and cons of the different options) and a mini-crystal ball (to predict the outcome of the unsure future). Then I woke up and my coffee was cold … needless to say the GPS, scanner/printer and crystal ball is not part of the unique physique of my bodwa.

One always sit and wonders if you are the only living organism wondering how different your life would have been if you took Option B instead of the Option A that looked so appealing at the time. “Take the road less travelled” ….what bullshit!! They want you to take the road less travelled so you can be eaten by hungry animals along the way …clear all the weeds and make a pretty garden while you at it … so they don’t have deal with those obstacles when they take the road. But because I fall in the category of humans that cannot withstand a good challenge I fall in the trap.

The thing is I don’t want to be one of those bitter old queens that hate the world and everything on it because of the path I have chosen (and if you are honest we all know at least 3 Bitter Bessy Queens who fit this description). Don’t get me wrong I have made some good and bad choices in my life – and when I think about it, I would actually not change one thing. Maybe that is an answer in itself… even when I realised that I have made the wrong choice – I persevere and make the best of it …and don’t tell a living soul (smile and wave boys ...smile and wave lol).

At the end of the day I think you either have a survivor attitude or a victim-attitude. I have never been known to play the victim-role very convincingly…something a think I got from my gran (awesome, strong lady).

I think at the end of the day the only thing that really matters is that you choose a road and make it work as best you can…and not procrastinate in making decisions. Wow this post has just saved me a trip to my psychologist and about R900 in consultation fees…

Life is beautiful!

The ‘Come Back’

WOW! What an amazing, nerve wrecking, rollercoaster-induced ride the past few months has been. The 2010 FWC came to SA and went of without any major incidents. All the long hours and preparations … all to show the world we have what it takes.

Seeing that my last post was such a long time ago, I was pondering what to write as a “come-back” story. In the mental state I am currently it might take another year – so that idea has been pushed under the carpet …and the TV cabinet were moved very gracefully on top of the carpet.

Alas I have gone through some mind-altering experiences, met some amazing and inspiring people, and will probably never be the same. So the only thing to do is to get back in the saddle and use what we have learned to improve day-on-day.

So sit back, fasten your seatbelts and enjoy the ride…

Uganda: Kill the gays and all their friends, too!

The Uganda Anti-Gay Bill is really something that is against everything that our Constitution stands for in South Africa. Click here to hear the Bill explained - it is really worth the 3 minutes to listen to this ... Hopefully it upsets you enough to start doing something about it.

Hey Jude...

OMG lol !

Budged Speech terminology

Steve !!!

Gorgeos ...

Thanks for sending in this one Zaida :)

Lap Dance ??!!

Formula: For your perfect marriage proposal age

Australia statisticians have created a formula that predicts the best time to propose to your partner.

The equation, developed by a team of researchers at the University of New South Wales's School of Mathematics and Statistics, employs the age at which the user starts looking for a long-term partner and the absolute oldest they want to be when they get married.

They believe each person's unique scent helps attract a partner who'll produce genetically stronger children.

Prof Rob Brooks, director of evolution and ecology at the University of NSW, studied subjects who sniffed the armpits of T-shirts worn by the opposite sex for several days.

Results showed people were usually attracted to the smell of someone with significantly different genes to their own.

Love by numbers

1. Choose the oldest age by which you want to get married, for example, 39. Call this 'n'.

2. Decide the earliest age at which you'll start to consider a potential spouse, for example, 20. This age becomes 'p'.

3. Subtract 'p' from 'n' (39 - 20), then multiply the result by 0.368. This equals 6.992.

4. Add this to your minimum age.

Result: 27 is your optimal proposal age.

Read the full article here

State of the Nation 2010

State of the Nation Address by His Excellency JG Zuma, President of the Republic of South Africa; Joint Sitting of Parliament, Cape Town...

Last night we all sat and watched the State of the Nation 2010 speech. It was very vague in most instances (with no measurable or time frames). At least when it came to education, poverty and housing there was more concrete information.

To read the whole speech click here

Send me your comments and feelings around this :)

I think his parents might have a drinking problem

When cigarettes become to expensive ...??!!

Brilliant: Super 14 Rugby

Some more C&H

Jackie Beat - Don't Tell Me You're Gay!

Book: Love Green Food

Now for those who know me ...I am not a big reader ...nor a health nut. So this "have-to-read" book may come as a surprise.

I always saw the whole 'organic' thing as just another thing to make you pay more for basic food. And then on top of that you have to cut our meat (which we all know most South Africans will never do).

Then I was watching "The Power Within" the one morning and listened to the author, Larissa Green (how appropriate I know), explaining what makes her book different. Then she said it: "This book includes meats etc as going organic is not cutting everything out ...but making it work for you". Well that I can work with.
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Larissa said: "The personal and global circumstances I found myself in made me become more aware of the way food affected myself and the environmental problems we are facing on the planet. I realised I had to start making changes in my lifestyle, especially health related dietary changes and that I had to give more consideration to the environmental implications of where my food came from or where the waste associated with it was going."

I think we all want to live healthier, protect the earth and all that goes with it - but what are we willing to give up. Well done Larissa for getting a middle-path and making healthy eating exciting again.

Go and visit her website and get a copy of her book ... you won't be sorry

When I grow up ...

After it was marked and the child brought it home, she returned to school the next day with the following note to the teacher:

Dear Ms. Davis,

I want to be very clear on my child's illustration.
It is NOT of me on a dance pole on a stage in a strip joint. I work at hardware store and had commented to my daughter how much money we made in the recent snowstorm. This picture is of me selling a shovel.

Mrs. Harrington

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